Episode 61

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8th Dec 2023

Why ADHD entrepreneurs need to make REAL human connections (and not ChatGPT ones)

Welcome to the latest episode of The Weeniecast, where we simplify the world of ADHD entrepreneurship and business strategy. Hi! I'm Katie McManus, business strategist and money mindset coach.

This week, I'd like to share a story about my high school graduation and the school janitor who made a lasting impact.

The Right Way to Build Real Human Connections In Your ADHD Business

I just want to name the importance of creating genuine human connections in your content to attract ideal clients.

I'm gonna say it - relying on AI-generated content from your ChatGPT prompts may not be as effective as you think.

I'm here to reveal the key to empathetic marketing and the value of building meaningful connections in business.

Listen in to this episode for practical insights and memorable anecdotes that can transform the way you approach content creation and client engagement.

The impact of building real human connections

There's a reason I open this episode with a personal anecdote about my high school graduation speaker.

I want to illustrate the importance of making genuine human connections in attracting ideal clients.

We didn't ask any of the teachers to speak to us.

We asked the janitor.

Why?

Well, I get into that in the episode.

Suffice to say right now, the reason is the same less that I hope teaches you the impact of authentic, empathetic marketing in creating content that resonates with your audience of ideal clients.

AI-generated content is obvious. And it's bad news if you're looking building connections with those dream clients, especially for entrepreneurs with ADHD.

As well as telling the story about why my teachers didn't speak at my graduation, I'm also going to share my story about the young mom, her daughter, and two old men who met at the park.

If you're planning on hopping on to ChatGPT today to create your social media content for the next week, stop everything and listen to this first, I urge you.

Because it might just be the decision that leads to a change for the better in your entrepreneurial journey.

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Mentioned in this episode:

Katie's May Birthday challenge

Clients can't hire you if they don't know you exist... Which is why it's SO important to post content to Social Media. Consistently. But that's easier said than done... To learn how to post consistently, you have to DO consistently. Which is why I've created the 31 Day Challenge- to hold your feet to the fire so you can create content, post, and finally attract your ideal clients to you, rather than chase them down...

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In this episode, you'll learn what my high school janitor can

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teach you about attracting your ideal client.

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Hi, I'm Katie McManus, business strategist and money mindset

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coach. And welcome to the Weeniecast,

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I have the most

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traumatizing recurring nightmare. In this nightmare, I get a phone

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call from my old guidance counselor from my high school, Mr.

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Bennett. And Bennett says, hey, Kathryn, so great to talk to

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you. I'm sorry, but I have some bad news. And I'm like, what,

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Mr. Bennett? Like, what happened? I'm thinking, like, someone died or

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the school burned down, whatever. And he know. We've

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actually been auditing our past records, and it looks

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like the courses you did in your senior year of high school

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actually weren't enough for you to graduate. And unfortunately, we have

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to take your high school diploma back. And if you'd like to keep

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it, you'll just have to redo your senior year of high school, and you'll

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have to come back and enroll. And in my dream, I'm very aware that I'm

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in my 30s. There are a few ways this dream goes from there. Sometimes I

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go back to school. Sometimes I say, fuck it, I'm just not going to have

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a diploma. There's a lot of different ways that Dreamcatie handles

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this nightmare. And the only reason I bring this up

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is because I'm talking about this incredible thing that happened

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at my high school graduation that helps me prove a point

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about what you should be using to create content that will

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attract your ideal clients. Before we get to that,

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I want to share. At my high school, the senior class would always

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vote on who their main speaker would be at

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graduation. This was usually a local

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politician, a celebrated business owner, maybe one of the

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favorite teachers, maybe an administrator

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know had been influential in some big project during their

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time at school. My class, however, chose our

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school janitor. I believe his name was Dave. And I'm so

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embarrassed. I'm really bad with names from that far back. The reason

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my class chose the school janitor to

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speak at our graduation was because he was the

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adult in that building who made

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the most people in our class feel seen and

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understood and taken care of. He was there in the

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hallways when someone got kicked out of class for misbehaving,

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and they were just having a really bad day and they needed to talk to

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someone. I seem to remember him putting his mop up against the

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wall and just kind of walking with them down the hallway for a bit and

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just being an ear. After school, if kids

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were sitting around and kind of avoiding going home,

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he'd be the first person to ask, like, hey, what's going on? If you made

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an excuse to go to the bathroom in the middle of class because you needed

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to go cry, he was usually in the hallway. He was usually

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just a very kind person to speak to. He offered genuine

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connection, and it wasn't that

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structured connection that you got. If you went to the guidance counselor's

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office and set up an appointment and then had a meeting with

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Mr. Bennett and all the things, and they put the notes in your

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file that you were having a hard time with this, that and the other thing.

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He was just an adult who cared. He gave a. When he

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got up to speak, he was incredibly touched that he was

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being recognized in this way. And

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I don't think he realized until that moment what a

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difference he made in so many teenagers lives.

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Simply by being there, simply by listening, simply by

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giving a fucking caring. It's really something special

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to be able to do that for kids that have

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adults around them that might not be listening. And I'm sure as I'm

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describing this person, you're listening, thinking about

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this person that was there for you when you were younger, that

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adult who was just kind of always there in the periphery, who, if you needed

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to talk to them or if you were crying, they would ask you, what's going

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on? You okay? We remember these people.

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These people have a very special place in our hearts,

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even if we can't remember their names 20 years later. I say

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all this to prove a point, that chat GPT is

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shit.

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As you're growing your business, I know a major part

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of promoting your work and marketing yourself and being on social media

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is coming up with a crap ton of content.

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And it's so easy now that we have this incredible

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robot brain to turn to, to go

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and give them a couple prompts and get some language

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back and say, amazing. This is content that I'm going

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to share on social media that's going to convince people that they need to hire

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me. Guess what? Chat GPT can't build

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connections. Chat GPT can't make people feel

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seen or heard. Chat GPT can't make

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people laugh in a genuine way. It can't

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represent your personality, the way you

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show your personality. It's great for coming up with content

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ideas, but I don't want you becoming

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reliant on using chat GPT content to

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promote your business, because guess what? It

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won't work as well in my

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programs. Whether you work with me in my group program or one on

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one. The type of marketing that I teach is called empathetic

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marketing. And this style of marketing does a couple different

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things. It really communicates that you understand

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the troubles, the stresses, the fears that your ideal

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clients have. You exhibit that you deeply understand where they want to

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go from here. What does winning look like to them? And

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a lot of that is listening to them. And a lot of that

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is also sharing your personal stories, showing

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that you've been in their shoes, you've struggled with

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similar things, and you've overcome

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similar things. And by the way, if

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they're ready to overcome them, you're happy to be there to help them. In

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the content creation universe, there is this myth of giving

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value. All the social media gurus are out there saying, give

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value, give helpful tips, give listicles of things that people

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should do to move from X to Z, and blah,

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blah, blah, blah, blah. Yes, you can absolutely give

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tips. You can exhibit how smart you are. You

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can teach. But I want to remind you, my senior

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class did not nominate a single teacher to speak. They

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nominated the person who is listening, who built those connections with

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them. Your ideal clients out there who are paying attention to

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your content are waiting for you to build that

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connection. They have enough people who are throwing information at them, who

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are trying to teach them shit that's like, in that moment, they're not ready to

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accept. And to prove this point,

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I'm going to tell you. Oh, what am I going to say next? Well, you'll

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have to keep listening to find out. But first, squirrel, squirrel, squirrel,

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squirrel.

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And to prove this point, I'm going to tell you the story of the two

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old men in the park. I've told this story previously, but it really shows

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you what works in marketing. Every single day,

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there is a young mom, and she has a three year old daughter. And they

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go to the park, and this little girl is obsessed with the

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fishes in the pond. She insists

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that every single day, rain or shine, they have to take some pieces of

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bread to go and feed the fish. And she checks on them, and she kind

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of names them, and she gets really excited when they come up

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to the surface and they bite the bread and all the things. And she really

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takes her time to spend time with her fish, right? And the mom,

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of course, any excuse to get out of the house and give her child

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an activity that she doesn't have to really be the entertainer for

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is a nice little break. And so every single day, around the

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same time, they go to the pond, the daughter feeds the fish, and the mom

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just kind of hangs back, watches, and occasionally she'll

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notice that around the same time every day, there are two old men that sit

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on either side of this little pond. One day, after they've been doing

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this for a long time, she realizes, like, this is so silly. I should just

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go and introduce myself. So she goes up to the first old man

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and tells him her name and says, hi, I see you here a lot.

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Thought it was just time that I introduced myself. And he says, oh, it's so

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nice of you to do that. Yes, my name is so and so. Please have

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a seat on the bench. How's your day going? She says, oh, it's going really

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well. And he starts talking, and he starts saying,

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I saw your daughter having a temper tantrum last week. And here's what I would

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have done differently. Here's, like, the three step process that I would have taken to

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handle a child having a temper tantrum. And also,

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do you ever have a squeaky wheel on your office chair?

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Here's how you fix it. Also, if your door hinge is

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ever out of alignment, here's what you do with a hammer to

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just tap it back into place. And if you ever have

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a leaky faucet in your house, here's how you'd fix it from a plumbing perspective.

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But if you don't have those tools and you're a little nervous about

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doing plumbing work and you're waiting for an actual plumber, what you can do is

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you can tie a string around the tip of the faucet, and instead

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of the water doing the drip, drip, drip, that drives you crazy, the water will

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just fall down that string to the bottom of the sink. And he goes on,

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and he's sharing fairly helpful tips with her throughout the time

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that they're sitting on this bench together. And then, of course, it's time to go.

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The bread is done, and the little girl has lost interest in the fish for

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the day. And the woman says, it's been so nice to talk to you.

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I will see you tomorrow. And they say goodbye. The next

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day, the woman comes back to the pond, and instead of

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talking to the first old man, she decides she wants to say hi to the

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second old man, who's also there every day. And so she goes, and again, she

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introduces herself and explains that she sees him there all the time and

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thought it was time that she introduced herself. And he says, oh, my God. It's

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so nice to meet you. My name is so and so. Please come and sit

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down. And he asks her how's your day going? And he

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says, I saw your daughter have that temper tantrum last week,

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and I just want to say you did a great job. I know having kids

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at that age is so tough. I had three of them,

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and the oldest one used to do this and it drove me crazy. And

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then the middle one would go off on these tears and,

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oh, my God, I thought my wife was going to burn the house down.

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And our youngEst, oh, our youngest,

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we are so delighted that our youngest has children now. So they get

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their comeuppance, right?

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They have kids, and their kids are around your daughter's age,

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and you know what they call us? They're at their wits end sometimes. And

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being a parent is so hard, isn't it? But it's so gratifying. And then

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he goes on to ask her questions about her life and about what's

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going on for her, and then he shares stories about himself.

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And throughout this time, she feels really

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connected to him. She feels seen, she feels acknowledged.

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She doesn't feel at all shamed for how he's observed her

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parenting her daughter. And then, of course, the

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daughter runs out of bread, loses interest, it's time to

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go. The next day, who is she going back to?

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The first old man or the second old man?

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And this is a rhetorical question, but there is a right answer, and it's the

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second. Second one. Of course, not only that, but

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if she ever has a parenting

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question, if she ever wants feedback from someone who's

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been there, she's not asking the first old man who gave a ton of quote

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unquote value. She's going to the second old man

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who normalized the struggle, who didn't

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give her any suggestions how to do it better, just

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acknowledged that it's hard, and shared that he had a

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lot of experience with it, didn't try to fix her problems,

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and made her feel seen and listened to.

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When we're thinking about value, we oftentimes

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think of, well, what's the lesson that they're going to take away? What is

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the actual curriculum that they're going to walk away with that is

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going to show them how to get from point A to point B?

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But that's not all value is. Value

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is also a feeling. Value is that

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connection that trust you build.

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I would actually argue that the value the first old man

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gave was pretty worthless.

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It was all stuff that if she actually had that problem, she could go onto

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the interwebs, Google, search it and find the

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answer. It was all stuff that I'm sure a

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million first old men have created YouTube videos

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about, but she can't get what she got from the

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second old man from a Google search. And neither can your

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clients. As you're thinking about what kind of

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content to create, I know it's really

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tempting to turn to tools like chat GPT, because

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that's what everyone's telling you to do, and it seems so easy. And

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as ADHD entrepreneurs, we're always looking for different

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ways to hack things and make it easier for ourselves.

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But it's not going to be as effective as actually just connecting with

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your ideal clients and showing that you understand

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where they are. There's this funny thing that happens with new

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business owners in particular, and especially people who have ADHD,

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is that when you start a business, you feel like you have to prove to

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the world that you know what you're talking about, that you're an expert,

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that you are a

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quantifiable authority in your

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industry. It's almost like you feel like you have to make a list

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of all the things that you know and present this list to everyone so that

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they can see that you know, stuff. Because we're so self conscious that people

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are going to think that we're dumb or we're doing it wrong or that we're

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not qualified for the thing. And this can come from a myriad of things.

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This can come from having massive shiny object syndrome, right where

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you're jumping from topic to topic. So you become a very

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spread out generalist. You're not necessarily an expert in

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one particular area. It can also come from people

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just treating you like you're not good enough. And it

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doesn't necessarily even have to be true. It could be rejection, sensitivity,

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dysphoria, where you're just perceiving the tone that they're

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speaking to you in as they're thinking that you're not good enough or you're

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not smart enough or you're not qualified enough. It's that

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self rejection that you do to yourself that makes you feel like you

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have to prove to the world that you are smart and capable.

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The interesting thing about humans is we actually don't go

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around assuming everyone else is stupid. We actually go around

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assuming that everyone else is just as smart as we are until

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proven otherwise. So unless you hang around with

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really, really dumb people who are very aware that they're

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dumb, you do not have to prove anything.

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What you do have to do is you have to build connection with your

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ideal clients. That is the thing that is going to make you the most memorable.

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That is the thing that is going to create a special

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part in their hearts for you because you understood them

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more than anyone else, especially if you're selling a high level

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service that costs a lot of money. I want you to think about the people

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who are out there in the world, who are following your content, who

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are reading it every single day and reading other people's

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content that's giving a ton of value. If they're going to spend

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a ton of money on solving this problem that you

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fix, are they likely to hire the person

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who's offering advice they can find on Google? Or are they

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likely to hire the person who they feel deeply connected

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to, who they trust more than anyone,

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and who they know will not shame

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them for being in this problem?

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Bet you it's the latter.

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This doesn't just go for creating content, it also goes for

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engaging on other people's content.

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I want to urge you not to use chat,

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GPT or other AI

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tools to comment on other people's posts.

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It's obvious I have started deleting comments

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that are obviously written by a robot because I'm not

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online to connect with robots. If I'm having a conversation

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with you in my comment section, I'm having a conversation with you.

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I don't want to have a conversation with a robot. If I did, I'd be

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spending a lot more time on chat GPT and I'd be getting a little weird.

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We both know that. Not that I'm not already weird. I know using

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chat GPT comes from a place of fear and worry,

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that what you have to say is not good enough, that being you is

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not good enough. But I promise you you

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are. I promise you that it doesn't matter how

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you show up. There are going to be people

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who, when you show up as your authentic self, will be drawn

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to you. You can make all the spelling mistakes,

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the grammatical mistakes that you want, and it really doesn't matter.

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And please, for the love of God, do not use chat GBT to comment on

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my posts. Squirrel, squirrel, if you're ready to stop being a weenie and

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actually run a business that makes money, then go ahead and book a

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generate income strategy call with me by going to

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Weeniecast.com strategycall.

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On this call we will talk about your goals, your dreams,

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and your frustrations in getting there. And if it's a fit

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for both of us, then we can talk about different ways to work together.

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Wow,

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it's just like there's so many comments where they're just summarizing my post and

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I'm like, Are you kidding me? Squirrel,

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squirrel, squirrel, squirrel.

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The Weeniecast: make more money, create an impact
Money mindset and impact coaching for business owners
I help business owners make more money in less time, so they can create bigger impact.
It doesn't matter what it is, we all have a sense of purpose. We want to leave a legacy.
We want to matter. And the best way of doing that, is to become wealthy.
But the sad reality is a lot of us are stuck in 'weenie' mode. In other words, we make up excuses for why we can't become our brilliant, wealthy selves.
That ends with this podcast.

My name is Katie McManus.
As a CPCC (Certified Professional Co-Active Coach) I know how to help people like you to reach their financial goals, and earn the life they've always dreamed of.

Until quite recently, I described myself as a business strategist and money mindset coach who was focusing on helping business owners with ADHD to get more income from their business.
I've been helping some of them get eleven times the value of their investment back.
And then, I had an epiphany.
I was being a weenie.
Being a business strategist is not the limit of my gifts to the world.
I'm also a political activist, a serial entrepreneur who oversees multiple six figure businesses, and I'm the founder of a non-profit with dreams of helping members of the LGBTQ+ community to find more joy from their lives in a very specific way.
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