Let's USE distraction to grow a business! Even with ADHD!

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In this episode, we're going to explore how

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adhd entrepreneurs can turn distraction into their greatest

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asset. Hi, I'm Katie McManus, business strategist and money

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mindset coach. And welcome to the Weeniecast.

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The ironic thing about the topic today is that we have had to deal with

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multiple distractions before we started recording, which makes it

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so much fun to do a whole episode on on how to deal

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with distractions because my producer and I are immediately going to start

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getting self conscious. Distraction is one of those symptoms of

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ADHD entreneurship that is most perceived by the

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outside world. As people with ADHD, we don't really

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perceive when we're being distracted. Our attention

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is just kind of refocused on this thing and then refocused

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again on this other thing and then refocused again

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on another thing. It really comes

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up as a problem for us when we have a

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task that we need to do. And

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usually my clients who are starting businesses, they're

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breaking away from working a corporate job where there's a lot of

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structure. Distraction is one of those things that

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becomes a lot worse as a

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solopreneur. And it's also complicated because

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we actually love distractions. We

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love when we can find a creative way to

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avoid doing something that we think is boring or that we don't want

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to do. The only time I take joy in cleaning

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my space is when it helps me avoid doing

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something that I really, really don't want to do in my business, like taxes.

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And if you're my accountant and you're listening, I know I owe you some stuff

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and some paperwork. I apologize. The

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other thing about distractions for an ADHD entrepreneur, sometimes the

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distraction is actually a massive spark of creativity.

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It's a new idea that we have to jump into and

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play with for a little bit or else we're going to lose it. So

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as we talk through distractions, I'm not saying

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that there's a way for you to never be distracted again.

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In fact, I'm not even saying that you avoiding all distractions is good

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for you. I think being distracted is one of the major

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gifts of being an ADHD person. A

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good distraction can be the thing that recharges us enough

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that we can throw ourselves fully into whatever task we need to

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do. A good distraction can be the thing that inspires

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a brand new idea for our business, a new offer, a

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way to help our clients that we hadn't thought of before. And quite

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honestly, being distracted is actually how we are productive.

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There are all those reels and TikToks of the

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ADHD person who sees a shoe and they're like, oh, that shoe

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is out of place. Let me take it to the bedroom. They get to the

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bedroom, they're like, oh, this towel is on the floor. I should put this back

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in the bathroom. Then they get to the bathroom and the toothpaste has been left

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open and it's kind of squirted on the sink. And they're like, oh, I should

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clean that up. And then while they're at the sink, they're like, oh, my gosh,

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I forgot to take my antidepressant today. I have to take my medication. And they

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open the thing like, wow, there's a lot of old antibiotics here. I

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should be disposing of them, and so on and so

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forth. We don't do things in a linear way. We don't do things

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in a container. We do things randomly

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in a way that makes sense to us. But the point is that

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things generally do get done. The things that need to happen get done

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just kind of in a weird order. So if you're someone who really

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struggles with distraction, I'm going to give you some tactics,

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some real simple, doable tactics that you can

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use to manage distractions better.

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And I invite you to stop vilifying distractions.

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They're not evil. They're not bad. They just are. And

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when you learn to use them in a way that works for you, life gets

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a lot easier.

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I've broken down distractions into four categories. The

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first one is other people. The second one is

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dependence. The third is your space,

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and the fourth is internal you.

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I'm going to go through them. I'm going to be talking about the different things

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that can happen and what's really helpful, especially for those of you who are in

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the beginning stages of starting your business or who have

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just taken your business full time, especially when we're talking about

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your space and managing other people.

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One of the hardest things when I started my business and I went full

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time was that I didn't have anything on my

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calendar. I didn't have an office that I had to go to

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00 a.m. To 03:00 p.m. I worked really early hours

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when I lived in San Francisco, where my manager would notice if

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I wasn't there. I just kind of had quote unquote free time.

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And it wasn't actually free time, it was work time. But

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because it didn't have the structure that I was used

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to, I would get invitations from friends to go to lunch. And

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another friend might ask, hey, I'm going to go work out. You want to come

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work out with me? There's a yoga class we go to. Family would ask me

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for favors knowing that I didn't have anything planned. And

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I would say yes because I'm an extrovert and I like

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spending time with my friends and I like doing favors for my family. And

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what I realized I was actually doing to myself is I was causing myself

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a great deal of anxiety because as I was out to lunch with my friend,

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and as I was going to yoga with another friend, and as I was helping

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my family member with something around their house, I knew in the back of my

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mind that I wasn't doing the work. I wasn't doing the foundational work to

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get my business up and running full time. And I found myself

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actually resenting my loved ones because how dare they

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ask me to do this stuff? They know that I have a job.

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But I realized that they actually didn't know that I had a job. As far

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as they could see, I just quit my job and I was unemployed. And

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sure, they thought I was, like, starting a coaching business, but who knows what that

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means as a new business owner, as someone who has

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to really buckle down and get those

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beginning clients. Figure out your marketing, figure out how to do

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your sales funnel. Figure out a whole bunch of other stuff. From

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the outside, it looks like you're not doing anything. It

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looks like you're just hanging out, playing on your computer all day.

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And so the people around you are going to see that and think, oh, cool,

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they're free. Let's invite them to do fun stuff. And it's

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hard to say no because we all love fun stuff. I'm a

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big fan of fun stuff, personally, and I bet you are, too.

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And it's hard to say no to something when you don't have an

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appointment scheduled, when you don't have a client call or a sales call or something

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on your calendar, but something that you're going to have to get really good

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at is saying, no, I can't do that. I'm working

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on my business right now. No. My work day starts at 09:00 a.m.

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And ends at 04:00 p.m. I'd love to hang out with you. Can we go

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to a yoga class this evening when your family asks you

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for a favor? Absolutely. I'd love to help you. Can I come over this

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weekend and help you today? I'm actually working. You have

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to be the one who trains everyone around you that you

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are working on your business. They won't be able to see it otherwise

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because for them, you working looks like you going out of the

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house and going to the office. It doesn't look like you sitting on your couch

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in your pajama pants with a blouse on, with your computer in your

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lap. Honestly, that just looks like you've kind of lost it connected to

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this. Your phone notifications. You are in charge of how

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many notifications you get. You're in charge of what text

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messages can come through from who, when you get notified

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of them, what social media notifications you get throughout the day.

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As someone who's easily distracted, you have to

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set the boundaries with your technology. If

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you don't, then you're just going to have this constant like

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ping. Someone posted a new Instagram ping, someone

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did a new TikTok. Someone texted you, oh, it's your mom. Oh, she

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wants to ask if you want to help her with something. It's never

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ending. There are so many settings on

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different phone types for you to manage this. I'm not even going to walk you

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through it. You can figure this out, and I've already kind of touched upon this.

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But you do need to schedule time with your loved ones.

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If they think that you have all this free time all of a sudden and

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you're not wanting to spend time with them during that time, they're going to start

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feeling really rejected. And especially if you have

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ADHD, you probably have a lot of friends with ADHD and you probably have family

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members with ADHD, which means you have a whole group of people that

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have rejection, sensitivity, dysphoria. So you saying no, that you would

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rather sit under your computer doing what they perceive as nothing

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rather than hang out with them is going to be really bruising to their

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ego and their feelings. So you do need to

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prioritize scheduling time to spend with them.

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This will also help you decompress on a regular

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basis because as a new business owner, you're going to feel this

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immense pressure to spend every waking moment

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working on your business. Until you're making enough money that you have your normal

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salary back, you cannot spend every waking moment doing that.

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You're going to burn yourself out. So schedule off time with your loved

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ones. If you live with your partner and you both work

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from home or you both have a reason to be home, maybe your partner is

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a full time parent. You need to design with them that sometimes

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during your workday you're going to be on YouTube watching

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puppies. Learn how to do the stairs for the first time. You're going to be

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on Facebook, scrolling, kind know, stalking friends from high school.

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You're going to be doing things on your computer that looks like

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you are slacking off. But you and I both know in those

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moments, you're not slacking off. What you're doing is you're actually giving

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yourself a little dopamine boost so that you'll have enough dopamine to

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get to the next task. And we need to find ways to communicate

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to our partners that if they come up behind us and make a

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comment, that can come across as a judgment like, oh, I thought you were

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working today. Looks like you're having fun. It can completely take the wind out of

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your sails. And you get to explain to them that things

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like that are actually productivity boosters for us. So that

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is how we are dealing with other adults in the world. Now,

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technically, adults and dependents are other people, but like,

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dependents have different requirements because

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you can't have the same expectations for a four year old to

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respect your time and your boundaries as you can your partner. And

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if you have a four year old who knows how to respect boundaries, then good

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on you. I'm not speaking to you.

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So when I talk about dependence, I'm talking about children and pets,

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any kind of living being that depends on you, that's going to

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need care throughout the day.

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Now, the key here is you have to set them up for

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success first. All right. I don't have children, so I'm going to use my

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dog as an example here. If I'm expecting to get

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a good 4 hours of work done in a morning or in an

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afternoon, I need to make sure that she's set up for success, which

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means I have to get her outside and exercised. I have to go

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and run her. I have to take her on a long walk because if

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I don't, she's going to have this neurotic energy that just comes up and

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she's going to constantly want to play with me while I'm trying to get work

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done. And I love my dog. She is the cutest thing in the world and

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I love playing with her, but I have to

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pay the bills. I have to be able to afford all the fancy treats that

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I buy her. I have to keep her in a very good lifestyle. I

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can't do that if she is distracting me from my,

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you know, I told you I'm not a know. Your

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kids may need similar care to Luna. They may just need exercise.

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They may need to get some energy out so that they can focus on other

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things while you're getting work done. Depending on their age,

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you may also need to outsource the childcare. I

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know this can be expensive. Often for my clients who are

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parents, there's a stage in their business where the amount of money that they're

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bringing in is only covering their childcare costs. That's a

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really difficult thing to deal with emotionally. As someone who is

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ambitious and also cares about your kids but wants to find that

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balance, one of the reasons why it helps to work with a strategist who can

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help you figure out how you can make the most amount of money in the

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least amount of time. And this is often what I do with my clients who

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are stay at home moms or parents who share the responsibility of

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taking care of the kids. If you have the right strategy,

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sure, you're going to go through a phase where your money, all the money you're

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making from your business is going to childcare, but it won't last.

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You'll start making more money if you stick to the

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strategy, if you keep up the action plan. So

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setting your dependence up for success is

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the only way to set yourself up for success. The other

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element here is you have to set realistic expectations for

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yourself. If you have an eight month old and

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they've been consistently napping for an hour and a half every single day,

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guess what? That's not going to happen forever. You have to set

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realistic expectations. You're probably not going to want to schedule calls in

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that time because there's going to be a day where that eight month old is

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like, I don't want to take a nap or where they're going to nap for

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ten minutes and then wake up and be really upset. In setting realistic

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expectations for myself, I know I can't sit down and do 8 hours

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of work because I'm going to have to take my dog outside to pee at

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some point. I'm going to have to feed her. I'm going to have to play

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with her. I'm her one roommate. I have to keep it interesting for

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her. When you set realistic expectations for yourself, you prevent yourself

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from going crazy. And you also help everyone who has to

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work with you because you're not constantly having to change the

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game.

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The third category of distractions is your

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space. And this is something that is massively different

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for everyone. Some people, to keep

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themselves from being distracted, need absolute silence.

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They cannot have a single sound in their space. For

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others, absolute silence is deafening.

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You need ambient sound. You might

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need music going on in the background. You might need to go and rent

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a space in a co working office so you can have background chatter. Hell,

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you might need to go into like a busy cafe and do work

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there. You have to figure out what kind of space is

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most conducive to you getting work done and what kind of work

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you get done in that space. For me, I don't even drink, but I

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find it's really helpful when I have to put together a PowerPoint

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presentation. Or hell, if I'm plotting out a podcast

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episode to go to my local pub and grab

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dinner and have my laptop open and just start working.

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The key for me is it needs to be loud enough that I can't discern

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any particular conversation around me. If I can hear what the people next to me

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are talking about, then I'm going to get completely sucked into eavesdropping on

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them. I'm very nosy. I'm going to want to know all the details. I'm

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not going to get any work done, but obviously, if I'm on a call, if

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I'm on Zoom, I need to have a very specific space set up for myself

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so that I can do that successfully. And there's no right answer

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here. It's whatever works best for you, whatever works best for your

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business. So, for instance, if you're a copywriter and the

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work that you do that's paid doesn't require you to be on a

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Zoom call or on a phone call with someone, you get to work wherever you

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want. Whatever makes you most able to

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concentrate is going to be the best place. Other things that

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as ADHD ers, we have to kind of deconstruct for

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ourselves is this idea of professionalism

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in a workspace. A couple of years ago, I went through this

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certification called trauma of money. And one of the things that they

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trained us on very early on is that wherever

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you feel comfortable and safe is going to be the best place

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for you to take the class. It's going to be the best place for you

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to do work. Sometimes that means from bed, sometimes that

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means in your living room. Sometimes working on the floor feels the

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best. I give you permission to work wherever

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the feels best for you. I had a friend

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in San Francisco, and to prove the point that it really doesn't matter, I

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had this friend in San Francisco. He was the chief people officer at a tech

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startup. Okay? The CEO at this company

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was real difficult to manage.

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They had brought in so many different executive coaches to try to

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work with this guy, and he was pretty uncoachable. And finally,

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as a last resort, they actually hired a woman who works with

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movie stars out of LA. She was exorbitantly

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expensive, but she had this kind of smack you in the

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face approach that was no bullshit. And he

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was laughing because she charges so much money to work

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with her. And the very first call that he had with her, with the

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group explaining who she was going to be working with, she was sitting

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on her bed in Malibu. She was sitting on her bed cross

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legged, and she's laughing and she's talking and she's

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swearing and she's talking about what she's going to do with the CEO. And

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she was massively effective. And the key here

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is that she normalized it. She chose that.

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That is the best place for her to take a work call and went

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with it. You are the boss of your own business, wherever

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you want to work, your clients are just going to have to get

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used to that. And any client who's not willing to work with you because you're

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working someplace that's comfortable for you, they're not the right client for you. So

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comfort rather than professional, we get to redefine

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what our standard for professionalism is. For me, it's that

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you're good at what you do and you deliver it. It's

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pretty basic. I always laugh when someone books a generate

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income strategy call with me and they get on and we're talking about their business

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and they say something like, shit. They're like, oh my God, I swore. And it's

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like, have you listened to anything that I talk about?

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So yes, if you ever book a call with me, you are allowed to swear.

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I invite it. The last little bit about your space is

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mess. Different folks have different

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resilience to levels of mess. I'm pretty resilient.

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I'm a very messy person. I'm a clean person, but I'm a messy

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person. I just do not notice the piles of paper

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that are gathering around my desk. I don't notice the random

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doom piles of stuff until all of a sudden it becomes too

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much. If you're someone who gets distracted

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by mess when you start working and you're not

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taking care of that first, what you're actually doing is making everything that you're doing

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a layered task. Because for you to get to work, you have to

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clean your desk. For you to clean your desk, you might have to do something

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else, you might have to vacuum, you might have to do this, you might have

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to do that. If mess is one of the things that distracts you

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the most. And it's always something that gets added into your

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day because you have to deal with it before you can get to work. Start

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prioritizing that first. Make it a must do in your business

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dealing with a mess, because it's going to have to get dealt with either way.

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If you're going to get into whatever task you've assigned yourself for the day,

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it's better to plan around it and build a buffer of time

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than to let it kind of derail your whole day.

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And lastly, my favorite category for

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distractions is you. In

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my intake form for my generate income strategy calls, I have this question

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and it's like, what are the top three things that typically get in the way

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of you reaching your goals? The number one answer to this

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question is me, myself and I. I cackle every time I

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see this because it's so true. We are

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our biggest obstacle. It's our mindset. It's our

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shiny object syndrome. It's our ability to shift gears so

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fast and completely lose the plot. So when we talk about the

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distractions that come from us, our internal selves, there

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are a few different things that happen. So there is what goes on in our

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mind and what goes on in our body. One of the best things about being

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an ADHD entrepreneur is how creative we are. And also it's one

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of the most distracting things because ideas strike us at

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any moment, in any place. Along with all the ideas

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that we have as ADHD entrepreneurs, we also have this

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underlying fear that this is the last idea we're ever going

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to have. This weird belief, like there's no proof that it's true

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because we're coming up with ideas constantly, but we tend to

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have an idea and think, oh my God, I need to grab onto it right

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now and run with it because if I don't, then I'm going to lose it.

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I invite you to look around your house right now as you're listening to this.

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If you're home and look at all the piles of paper that you don't want

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to throw away because there's good ideas in it, there's good information that might

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have a good idea in it. We are

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idea hoarders. And sure,

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sometimes we'll write an idea down and go back to it,

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but oftentimes we don't. But I want to just call attention to the fact

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that you have never run out of ideas. You are an

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idea generator. There's a reason why there are so

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many people with ADHD who do things that are so innovative,

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because we are far more creative than neurotypicals,

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but you have to learn how to manage it so that you can get done

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in your business. And this is why one of the things that I recommend to

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all of my clients who have this issue of oh my God, I got this

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great idea, I'm going to run with that instead of all the things that I

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said I was going to do today, is to create some kind of idea

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bank. I also like to call this a back burner book.

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So if you're cooking multiple things, you can't actively cook all of them.

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You can focus on one or two things at the most at a time.

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So sometimes you just have to put stuff on the back burner to keep it

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warm before you get to it. Now, a back burner book or

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an idea bank can look a lot of different ways. It can be a journal.

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It could be the notes app on your phone. Hell, you could have an

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email chain to yourself from yourself where you're just sending

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back and forth different ideas. And if

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you're more advanced than I am, and you've figured out how to use project

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management tools like notion or ClickUp, you can absolutely create a

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board in there to manage all of your ideas. I always tell myself I'm

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going to learn those things, but every time I try, it's just so confusing.

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I know what I want it to do, but I don't speak the language to

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figure out how to make it do what I want it to do. And then

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I try, and then I get frustrated, and then I get mad, and then I

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get discouraged, and then I have to go for a walk and recover. It's

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a really ugly process. I just get bored and I

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tune out. So they explain it to me and it's like it goes in one

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ear and out the other. So I apologize to those of you who've tried in

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the past. I just don't think I'm destined for project

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management tools anyway. So on the one side, we have ideas that are

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distracting to us. On the other side, we have complete

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and utter boredom. Sometimes the boredom sets

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in for a task and you just can't continue with

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it. There are two ways to really deal with boredom.

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Can be that you need more stimulation. It could be that you need

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to go and give yourself like a quick hit of dopamine. So maybe

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you need to go and do a really simple task like go and comment on

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five posts on LinkedIn to get your engagement up. It could also mean

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respond to an easy email, or go take your dog for a ten minute

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walk it could be something that you can put on your to do list and

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very easily just cross off and get that satisfaction.

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Boredom can also mean that you are

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overstimulated, meaning that you're trying to

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do too much in too little time. You've taken

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in too much information, and you actually need to go sit

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in silence without your phone, without a book, without a

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journal, and just kind of stare off into space and disassociate for a

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while. I've learned this about myself, and I have to tell you,

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I'm not perfect at figuring out which one I need most.

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Oftentimes when I am feeling the boredom, that means I'm

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overstimulated. I get kicked into executive dysfunction.

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So it's hard for me to even get that get up and go to go

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and do other things. I start doing them, and I'm like, I just don't have

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the juice for it. And so I kind of back off. That's when I realize

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I have to just kind of put a chair in the center of the room

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away from everything and just sit there for a bit until I feel

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rested. With the understimulated boredom, it's

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usually that I'm just really antsy to get to the next thing, and it's easy

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for me to get to the next thing. I just kind of, like, bounce off

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the boring task into the exciting task and do that for you. This is

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going to be different. The signs are going to be different. So pay attention

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to when you're feeling bored. Are you getting kicked into

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executive dysfunction and you have a hard time getting into another task, or are

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you feeling like a ton of pent up energy that you need to get out

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in some way and deal with it appropriately? The other

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mental thing that can get in the way, that can distract us from the work

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that we need to do is stress about other stuff. This is one of the

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reasons why in the Monday sprint that I do three Mondays a month for all

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of my clients, I have them do a complete brain

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dump of everything that they're tracking in their minds

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that they have to get to that week. Anything that's stressing them out goes on

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that list. You want to fix world hunger? Great, it goes on the list.

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Anything that you feel like you need to be stressed out about that could

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be turned into a to do list item. Put it on the list even if

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you never get to it. Something that we don't talk about

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enough is the mental load that we carry. When you're

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an employee, you go to work, you have a certain set

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of responsibilities. You do those things and then you go home. You're not having

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to figure out what the responsibilities are and what the

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responsibilities of the other departments are and what the actions are of those other

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departments. And then you're not responsible to do the actions

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of the responsibilities of the other departments as well. As a business

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owner, you have to be all the people, you have to be

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all the strategists, and you have to be the

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prioritizer. Okay? That's fucking

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exhausting. It's a lot more

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mental work than you are used to. But because we've been trained on

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a 40 hours week, we expect ourselves to do 40 hours of

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action every damn week. It's impossible because you're having

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to do about 20 hours of mental work. Now.

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Part of the mental load is keeping track of what all the work

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is, getting it down on paper, even if

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it doesn't make the cut for your priorities, this week is going to

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be a way for you to offload it, to free up some ram in

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your brain, for lack of a better term. Because we all know as

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ADHD ers how our computers tend to like to

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crash when they have too many tabs open. The same happens in

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your brain. The last little bits about

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distractions that come from you are how you nourish your body and

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how you dress your body. If you're not feeding yourself

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properly, like this is going to go wrong,

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you're going to have a sugar crash, your stomach is going to hurt, you're going

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to be so hungry that you're going to start getting hangry and clients are

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going to start firing you because they can't handle it. If you're not drinking water,

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you're going to start getting really murky in your mind. You're going to start

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getting dark and depressed, and things are going to start looking

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real bad, real fast. If you're wearing clothes that are distracting.

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If you're wearing wool and it's itchy, why are you wearing wool?

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Stop it. If you need to go through all your clothes and cut out all

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of the tags, go and do it. We talked previously about

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you getting to define your version of professionalism that

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includes your wardrobe. I don't care what you had to wear to the office

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when you worked in corporate. I care about what you want to wear now.

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I care about how that facilitates you being able to be in your business

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100%. Sometimes it's going to look a little cozy, sometimes it's not

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going to look flashy and professional, and that's okay.

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So long as you're showing up and doing the work and providing the

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services to your clients who paid you for them, your

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distractions are never going to go away. New distractions are going to happen

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all the time. New world events are going to start distracting

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you. New ideas for your business are going to distract you.

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The occasional client who needs a little more attention is going to start distracting

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you. As a person who's running a business who also has

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ADHD, the key here is to not punish

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yourself when distractions happen. When

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you get pulled off course, to do something

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else when you meant to get X, Y and Z done, that's okay.

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That's the nature of things. What doesn't help the whole distraction

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cycle is when you get distracted and then you start punishing yourself for the

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distraction and then you feel bad like you failed in everything and then

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you can't go back to the original task because it's now associated with

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failure. It's exhausting, but it happens to us all the time. I know I've

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talked about this in relation to New Year's resolutions with going to the gym. If

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you say that you're going to go to the gym every single day and then

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you miss on day four, day five, you're not going back. You already

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failed. Like you're going to go to the gym and that everyone at the gym

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is going to boo you because you failed. You didn't show up for day four.

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How dare you. This doesn't count. It doesn't matter if you work out

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twice as hard on day five. Still doesn't count because you missed day four

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failure. I know I say that and it sounds

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ludicrous, but we know how it feels. The most powerful thing that you

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can do for yourself, for your productivity, for

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your business, is to have forgiveness for all the times you

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got distracted and gently, kindly with

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acceptance. Just bring yourself back so that you can do whatever you need to do.

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Squirrel, squirrel, squirrel. If you're ready to stop being a weenie

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: 00:30:43

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