5 signs you're under attack from the ADHD voices in your head & what Brené Brown can teach us about our internal shame!
Are you dealing with those pesky inner voices that try to tear down our ambitions and keep us stuck in our comfort zones? Yeah. Me too!
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Now, back to this episode...
I was in a French class the other day, struggling with the words, when this fascinating woman piped up, and we began chatting about our careers.
She's an opera singer from Toronto, who sings incredible pieces in French and wants to understand the language better.
What floored me was her question about my business: "How did you find the courage to start your business?"
Here’s this opera singer, someone who performs in front of audiences night after night, with impeccable bravery, asking me about courage.
That got me reflecting on how our inner voices - especially the critical ones - shape our perceptions of success and potential.
In this episode of The Weeniecast, I’m diving into exactly that: 5 signs you're under attack from the ADHD voices in your head - and how you can tackle them.
What if you could recognize the voice of doubt and saboteurs in your mind and learn how to manage them?
Here’s what you’re learning in this episode:
- Spotting the signs of your inner critic
- Understanding how ADHD plays into this
- Actionable strategies to keep those voices at bay
Listening to this episode, you'll gain insights into not just recognizing these voices but pre-emptively setting safeguards to protect your entrepreneurial journey from self-sabotage.
By the end, you’ll be better equipped to steer your business with confidence and minimized self-doubt.
Timestamped summary
00:00 Dealing with doubts and fears in business.
03:20 Brené Brown addresses shame, vulnerability, and wholeheartedness.
09:27 Building without market research leads to failure.
10:55 Artistic insecurity leads to lack of validation.
15:21 Saboteur seeks to keep you from risk.
18:20 Invisible business signs and blind group leadership.
22:43 Self-care crucial for sustainable business success. Avoid comparison.
25:06 Recover from negative thoughts for personal growth.
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Transcript
In this episode, we're going to talk about the five signs
Speaker:you're under attack from the ADHD voices in your head and tell you how to
Speaker:shut them up. Hi, I'm Katie McManus, business strategist and money
Speaker:mindset coach. And welcome to the Weeniecast.
Speaker:I promise I have a point, but we have to start with a little random
Speaker:story that I promise will make sense when we get to it. I am
Speaker:currently working on learning French. I speak French, but I'm not that good. So
Speaker:I'm taking classes every single day, and I'm doing it through this new
Speaker:program that has been really incredible, but it's also new, so there aren't
Speaker:that many people in class. So there's this one woman who I've been in class
Speaker:with five times over six days. You know, she's super nice. She's
Speaker:actually this opera singer in Toronto, and she's learning French because
Speaker:she obviously has to sing in French and she wants to be able to understand
Speaker:what she's saying, which I imagine. I imagine is important
Speaker:because you want to put the right emphasis on the right syllable.
Speaker:We were in this class yesterday and we were talking about our
Speaker:jobs. Like, that was the vocabulary lesson, is all the vocabulary that has to do
Speaker:with applying to jobs and having a contract and submitting
Speaker:for resignation and, like, showcasing what your talents are.
Speaker:And the teacher was really fun. She had, you know, because there were only two
Speaker:of us and she wanted to get us speaking and practicing. She had us asking
Speaker:each other questions about our jobs. And Daniella,
Speaker:who's, by the way, an opera singer, and absolutely incredible, asked me how I
Speaker:had the courage to start my business and to run it.
Speaker:And, like, this was astounding to hear from her because she's a fucking opera
Speaker:singer. She's getting up in front of hundreds of people
Speaker:every single night, singing, having to
Speaker:perform, knowing that all these people are paying a ton of money
Speaker:to watch her. And here she is wondering how I'm being
Speaker:courageous in starting a business. After I explained the whole stop being a weenie
Speaker:thing in French, which I don't think they understood. I think they think I'm
Speaker:just obsessed with sausages. It really got me thinking about
Speaker:all the doubts that we have to deal with, all the
Speaker:fear that we have to deal with when we're starting a business. And
Speaker:of course, I'm six and a half years in. The fears I have about my
Speaker:business are, like, next level from where I started, but they're still
Speaker:there. One of the most correct indicators of
Speaker:your potential success in your business is how you deal with those voices of
Speaker:doubt. How do you deal with the fear
Speaker:in coaching? You know, there are a few ways that we talk about that fear,
Speaker:those voices of doubt. In my style of coaching, coactive, we refer to them as
Speaker:saboteurs. They're the voices in your mind that want to sabotage
Speaker:whatever you're doing that's outside your comfort zone, because they want you to
Speaker:stay safe. And for the saboteur, in your mind, staying
Speaker:safe means being fine with the status quo. Like, it
Speaker:might not matter that you hate your house and roof leaks. At least you have
Speaker:a roof over your head. It doesn't matter that your friends are assholes to you.
Speaker:At least you have friends who cares that you hate your job. At least you
Speaker:have a paycheck. You should be grateful. Like, the saboteur is kind of an
Speaker:asshole, but they're there. It's funny because it's so much easier
Speaker:for us to, like, think of what that saboteur voice would say
Speaker:to us than it is to tap into what our higher self would say to
Speaker:us, what our inner leader would have to say. I love how
Speaker:Brene Brown actually talks about this. If you're not familiar with Brene Brown, she does
Speaker:all this work on shame and vulnerability and wholeheartedness.
Speaker:She started her career and she would kind of announce, like, yeah, I'm a shame
Speaker:researcher. And she jokes how, like, if you're sitting next to someone on a plane
Speaker:and they ask you what you do, the best way to shut down a conversation
Speaker:is say that you research shame, because no one really wants to
Speaker:talk about that. Right? But I mean, shame, if we think about
Speaker:it, it's like we feel shame when we're hearing these voices of doubt and we're
Speaker:believing them, right? Because these voices of doubt are telling us that
Speaker:we can't do things, that we're not
Speaker:good enough, that we might actually be terrible
Speaker:at what we want to do, and they attack in every
Speaker:way possible. Right? If you're a parent, this voice of doubt, these
Speaker:saboteurs are constantly going to tell you that you're doing terribly and you're screwing up
Speaker:your kids and that you're not being a good parent, you
Speaker:know? And look at all these other parents who are doing way better. If you're
Speaker:a woman and you have grown up with a lot of the messaging that we've
Speaker:gotten in magazines and tv and movies, I bet
Speaker:you have a few saboteurs or fear gremlins
Speaker:about your image, about how you dress,
Speaker:about maybe your weight or your appearance.
Speaker:This starts for girls around age eight. They start
Speaker:having body image issues, which absolutely
Speaker:blows my mind, but also is not surprising because that's when I started having body
Speaker:image issues. And if you're a business owner, especially if
Speaker:you're just starting out, these saboteurs are going
Speaker:to attack based on everything that they're seeing your
Speaker:competitors do. People who are years and years ahead of you, they're going to compare
Speaker:you to everyone. Any metric that you're not succeeding in, if you're not
Speaker:bringing in enough money, that is going to be proof that you're not good at
Speaker:this. I don't have any research to point to for this, but from talking to
Speaker:my clients and my own experiences, having
Speaker:ADHD makes this worse, because you know how when you talk
Speaker:about that inner monologue and everyone's like, oh, yeah, the voice in your head, the
Speaker:narrator, you know, who kind of talks about everything
Speaker:that's going on in your life and kind of, you know, speaks through all the
Speaker:sequence of events in the future and kind of refers back to former things. Yeah,
Speaker:ADHD people don't just have one voice. We have numerous voices, and they're always
Speaker:talking all at the same time. You're not good enough, which is
Speaker:especially painful when a bunch of them are your voices of
Speaker:doubt, fear, gremlins, saboteurs.
Speaker:Cause we're not just getting one of them telling us that we suck. We're getting
Speaker:17. Is this true for you, Neil? Oh, my
Speaker:God, yes.
Speaker:Can that please be in the episode?
Speaker:And I want to own that. Yes. There are absolutely going to be
Speaker:things in your business that you're bad at doing. Most people are
Speaker:bad at selling when they first start their business because guess what? They never got
Speaker:trained in selling. Lots of people are bad
Speaker:at social media when they first start out because guess what?
Speaker:They've never done social media before, and they're figuring it out.
Speaker:There was a period of time in your life where you sucked at using a
Speaker:fork, but what happened? You practiced and you got better. Hopefully
Speaker:you didn't. Then, you know, I'm sorry for your dry cleaner who has to
Speaker:deal with all those stains. And I just want to normalize that. These voices of
Speaker:doubt, we all have them, really. I mean, the only people
Speaker:who don't have them are sociopaths. So congratulations, you're
Speaker:not a sociopath. I hope you get yourself a cupcake to
Speaker:celebrate. So I want to go over some signs that you're actually
Speaker:letting your saboteur or voice of doubt drive the bus in your business.
Speaker:And then I want to go through, like, the steps that you need to
Speaker:take to overcome them, and
Speaker:I want to set the expectation here. There's no getting rid of them,
Speaker:that you're never going to completely eradicate these voices of doubt.
Speaker:There's no way you could be that confident in yourself that they're never going
Speaker:to show up. You're going to deal with a fear in one way, and
Speaker:then it's going to, like, just pop up in a different way. Because your voices
Speaker:of doubt are you. They're just as smart as you
Speaker:are. You're basically playing a game of chess against
Speaker:yourself. But the key to success in your
Speaker:business is learning how to always be a move ahead
Speaker:and recover when you're at a disadvantage. So
Speaker:here are five signs that you're listening to your voice of doubt, and
Speaker:it's probably slowing your business success. Number
Speaker:one. Ooh, what am I going to say next? Well, you'll have to keep listening
Speaker:to find out. But first, squirrel, squirrel, squirrel, squirrel.
Speaker:So here are five signs that you're listening to your voice of doubt,
Speaker:and it's a probably slowing your business success. Number
Speaker:one, you're spending a lot of time on back end
Speaker:work. I can't tell you how many times I've
Speaker:spoken to someone who was thinking about hiring a coach,
Speaker:but they really wanted to finish the digital course that they
Speaker:had built out for their business before they hired a coach.
Speaker:And if you want to hear my advice on how to launch a digital course
Speaker:in your business, then go check out episode 88. I lay it all out for
Speaker:you. But in that episode, I really go into how it's the worst
Speaker:idea in the world to start with a digital course
Speaker:because you have not market tested your idea.
Speaker:Sure, you may sell this digital course, you may get clients for
Speaker:it, but more likely than not, you won't, because
Speaker:you haven't sold it as one on one, teaching yet or coaching. You
Speaker:haven't sold it as a group yet. Your voice of doubt is really, really
Speaker:clever. Your voice of doubt is going to tell you that the only way for
Speaker:you to be taken seriously is to have
Speaker:all of your expertise planted somewhere where people can learn from
Speaker:it so that you can kind of shove it in people's face and be like,
Speaker:see, I'm an expert. Here's proof. And while sure that
Speaker:can be a boost for your ego temporarily,
Speaker:it is like a house of cards, right? Because you build it and you build
Speaker:it and you build it, and all of a sudden, it's this beautiful thing that
Speaker:you spent a ton of time on ton of energy, probably a ton of money.
Speaker:But it all comes crashing down when no one buys because it
Speaker:wasn't what your market wanted. Your voice of doubt knows it's not going to
Speaker:work. Your voice of doubt is always going to have you
Speaker:waste time on stuff that is going to keep you in your
Speaker:comfort zone, right? Because what is missing in the whole act of
Speaker:designing a online course? Marketing,
Speaker:putting yourself out there, telling people you're starting a
Speaker:business, actually being brave and going and doing the
Speaker:thing. Building an online course for a coach or
Speaker:consultant or online trainer is kind of similar to
Speaker:an artist. Only ever painting in private and never
Speaker:showing someone their work, never getting feedback on it,
Speaker:never getting direction, how to do a technique better or
Speaker:learn a new technique that will help them get the results they want. And
Speaker:sure, you could be a prolific artist and be
Speaker:bad.
Speaker:We all can remember the paintings we did in school where the
Speaker:top left corner of the page has the sun and it's just
Speaker:kind of like this round circle with the shiny bits pointing
Speaker:out. And then there's a weird blob that's supposed to be a cloud,
Speaker:and then there's the stick figure standing in the middle. Like, could you imagine being
Speaker:an artist and sitting in your room all alone and just churning out
Speaker:like dozens of those, hundreds of those, and then going out in
Speaker:the world and being like, see, I'm an artist. And everyone being like,
Speaker:wow, that's good.
Speaker:You worked really hard on that, didn't you?
Speaker:That ends up being the exact same thing. When you focus on the, the
Speaker:back end work of your business without going and market testing it
Speaker:as you go, your saboteur sets you up for this all
Speaker:time, and I'll be real. I get sucked into this a lot,
Speaker:but I also have some of the tools that brings me back from it, which
Speaker:I will be getting to in a little bit.
Speaker:Another sign that you're trusting your voice of doubt and not actually going with
Speaker:your inner leader or your higher self is you are
Speaker:constantly throwing money at the problem. This happens a lot, and
Speaker:I've totally been guilty of this, especially earlier on in my business,
Speaker:anytime I felt insecure about something, I'd be like, okay, cool, there's a course for
Speaker:this. I don't know how to do Instagram. Cool, I'm gonna buy a course
Speaker:for this. Oh, I didn't do that course. It didn't really fit me. I'm gonna
Speaker:go buy another course. And another one. And another one. Did I
Speaker:do any of them? No, of course not. The problem with this is when we're
Speaker:throwing money at something, we're not doing it strategically. Right? When we throw money
Speaker:from. Because our voice of doubt is undercutting our
Speaker:belief in ourselves, we do it from a place of fear. We're doing it
Speaker:from a place of, I'm not enough, and I'm not smart enough to figure this
Speaker:out on my own. And of course, like, it is super valuable to invest
Speaker:in the right help. But when you're in a fear place,
Speaker:are you able to discern what the right help is or
Speaker:not? I want to also give a shout out to all the fear based
Speaker:marketing in my program. One of the things that I train on is empathetic
Speaker:marketing. And of course, empathetic. Like, you're empathizing with where your
Speaker:clients are, you're empathizing with how they're feeling in their business. That's not always
Speaker:a positive feeling. There's this belief around ethical marketing that,
Speaker:you know, you should only focus on the positive. I'm not a believer in that.
Speaker:I think we have to be realistic and we have to normalize the struggle for
Speaker:a lot of people. But there's a line that you cross when you start pushing
Speaker:things that people need to be afraid of. And there are a lot of people
Speaker:marketing their services or their courses in this way. And
Speaker:unfortunately, it works because it speaks directly to that voice of
Speaker:doubt that you have, that you're not good enough. They never have the secret. There's
Speaker:no secret. Anyone who tells you that they have the one unique secret
Speaker:that's gonna help you solve everything, they're full of shit. They're teaching
Speaker:pretty much what everyone else is teaching. They're just trying to make it sound really
Speaker:mysterious, but feeling that way, reading that and
Speaker:thinking, oh, my God, that's what I'm missing, you know, that speaks directly to
Speaker:your voice of doubt, your saboteur, who fully believes that there's a big part
Speaker:of this that you don't have. So one of the signs that you really want
Speaker:to pay attention for is when are you inclined to throw money at the
Speaker:problem? And I have nothing against you
Speaker:investing in the smart thing for you to move your business forward. But are you
Speaker:making this decision from a place of fear and insecurity,
Speaker:or are you making this decision from a place of, this is the right thing
Speaker:for my business.
Speaker:The third sign that you're being driven by your saboteur in your business
Speaker:is what I like to call mindset mania. We
Speaker:get so wrapped up in doing mindset work to help us
Speaker:be in a success mindset so that we can go and be successful
Speaker:in our businesses, that we jump over the fact that we don't know how
Speaker:to do a lot of shit right. It doesn't matter what your mindset
Speaker:is, if you don't know how to sell something, you're not going to sell it.
Speaker:It doesn't matter what your mindset is. If you don't understand how to use
Speaker:social media to market your services, like, you're not going to be effective going
Speaker:on social media, marketing your services, working on your mindset only
Speaker:in your business is kind of like those people who are like, quote unquote,
Speaker:manifesting their dreams, but all they're doing is sitting in their room
Speaker:journaling about all the things that they want, but not actually taking action to make
Speaker:them happen. Yes, mindset is absolutely
Speaker:important, but it's not the only thing that's
Speaker:important. It's very sexy to think,
Speaker:oh, cool, well, if I just get my mindset in the right place, then I
Speaker:can go and do everything I want. It is a piece of the puzzle. It's
Speaker:not the whole puzzle. But again, your saboteur
Speaker:is a crafty mofo who knows that you love doing
Speaker:this mindset work and wants you to spend all
Speaker:of your time working on mindset work so that you don't actually go
Speaker:and risk public embarrassment by announcing that you started a
Speaker:business and potentially failing in front of a bunch of people.
Speaker:You know, it's way safer for that saboteur to get you
Speaker:journaling and spending time really working on your mindset, meditating, doing a lot
Speaker:of stuff internally rather than risk the bullies from high
Speaker:school seeing what you're doing and having a good little
Speaker:giggle over it, that's terrifying to your saboteur. Your
Speaker:saboteur wants to prevent any risk of that. And by the
Speaker:way, your mindset for your business, there's no way
Speaker:you're going to be able to be fully in the mindset of success unless
Speaker:you also learn how to run the business. If you don't know how
Speaker:to ride a bike and I hand you a bike and say cool bike to
Speaker:the store, it's 2 miles away, and get some milk, you're going to look at
Speaker:me like I'm nuts. You know, you're not going to feel confident getting on that
Speaker:bike. You've never ridden a bike before. You're going to look at it like it's
Speaker:a death trap because for you, it is. However, once you learn how to ride
Speaker:the bike, once you understand how to get on, how to start
Speaker:pedaling, how to turn, how to stop. Once you understand how to do
Speaker:that stuff, you're going to feel so confident riding to the store, it's not even
Speaker:going to be a question for you. Your mindset is going to be in the
Speaker:right place for you to go and acquire the milk and bring it back.
Speaker:The fourth sign that you are following your voice of doubt and
Speaker:not your higher self in your business is that you are hiding in
Speaker:plain sight. And I'm talking to you.
Speaker:You know who you are. You've designed a website and you put it out
Speaker:there and you're waiting, and then you don't get any
Speaker:clients from it. So you go and you edit the website and maybe you
Speaker:change your niche. So then you go and edit it again and then you get
Speaker:new pictures taken. So then you go and upload the new pictures on the website
Speaker:and then it doesn't look quite right. So then you re edit the whole site.
Speaker:Unless you are pouring thousands upon thousands of
Speaker:dollars into SEO and ads to drive people to your
Speaker:website, which most of us, when we're starting businesses, cannot afford to do.
Speaker:People are gonna find your website through you being visible on social media,
Speaker:through you being proactive and putting yourself out there. You know, people are going to
Speaker:go to your website to verify that you are who you say you are. No
Speaker:one's going to, like, stumble upon your website just magically on
Speaker:the interwebs and think, oh, my God, this is like so
Speaker:serendipitous. I was just talking about needing a coach for this kind of
Speaker:problem. It's not going to happen. You're hiding in plain sight. It feels
Speaker:like you're being brave. It feels like you're putting yourself out there.
Speaker:But that's bullshit. You're not doing anything like that. You're basically putting
Speaker:up a sign that your business is open and then hanging it in your garage
Speaker:with the door closed. No one can see it. How are people supposed
Speaker:to know that you have a business if the sign is not visible to everyone?
Speaker:The fifth and final sign that I want to talk about today, that you're
Speaker:following your voice of doubt in your business, and I used to be super,
Speaker:super guilty of this, is you're investing a whole bunch
Speaker:of time in groups where the blind are leading
Speaker:the blind. And I'm talking to you, member
Speaker:of an accountability group with other people who don't know what the fuck they're
Speaker:doing now. There's nothing wrong with having support. There's nothing
Speaker:wrong with having a community of people who are really pushing
Speaker:themselves to do the brave thing. They're holding each other accountable
Speaker:and they're figuring it out together. The key here is that
Speaker:someone needs to be showing everyone what they
Speaker:need to do. Now, it could be that each and every individual in this group
Speaker:has their own respective coach or consultant who's helping them build their
Speaker:business. It could be that one person in the group
Speaker:is just being a very generous friend and kind of guiding everyone along. Here's what
Speaker:I did. They're kind of mentoring everyone, but without that key piece,
Speaker:without someone showing you what the next step is, you're
Speaker:literally all just there like hamsters in a hamster wheel, spinning, like,
Speaker:just spinning around, around and not going anywhere. I was
Speaker:so guilty of this when I first started my business and I was the ringleader.
Speaker:I organized these groups and they went nowhere so
Speaker:fast because none of us knew what we were doing. And the bravest thing you
Speaker:can do in that scenario is call bullshit on what
Speaker:you're doing and push everyone outside their comfort zone. Dealing with
Speaker:the saboteur is one of the hardest things that you're going to do in your
Speaker:business. And this is going to be harder than you going out and getting clients.
Speaker:It's going to be harder than you marketing yourself. It's going to be harder than
Speaker:that first time you're going to have to fire an employee, and there's no alarm
Speaker:system that'll alert you to when they've taken over.
Speaker:So you'll be going about your day and this voice will start and it'll start
Speaker:telling you all the things you suck at and how this isn't going to work
Speaker:out and how. Here's evidence that you know that opportunity is no
Speaker:longer available to you. You know how you're not good at this and you're not
Speaker:good at that, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And it's just the voice
Speaker:in your head or the voices in your head. In the case of having
Speaker:ADHD, there is no
Speaker:mayday. We've been taken over by bad people. We need to dial it
Speaker:back, do some meditation. Reset. Drink some water.
Speaker:There's no alert system. Like, you literally have to start
Speaker:becoming good at noticing when these voices take over,
Speaker:and that is really hard. Okay, so one of the things that I want you
Speaker:to start working on, if you've never done this kind of work before, is I
Speaker:want you to identify what are the things that that voice of doubt says to
Speaker:you? What are all the ways that it believes
Speaker:that you're not good enough? What are all the reasons why
Speaker:this voice of doubt thinks you should hide. And for the first month or
Speaker:so, as you're really making an inventory of all these awful things,
Speaker:you're going to look back and be like, oh, my God, the saboteur ran
Speaker:that whole week. It's all going to be past tense. You're just going to be
Speaker:looking at the past and seeing how the saboteur has run your life.
Speaker:And you're going to start feeling really frustrated because you're going to be like, oh,
Speaker:my God. Well, I know about it now. Why didn't I catch it? And
Speaker:you can't catch it right off the bat, right? You have to start building
Speaker:awareness around how it showed up previously. You know, the more
Speaker:you do that, the more you're going to be able to catch yourself when
Speaker:it's happening right now. Oh, cool. I'm starting to talk
Speaker:really negatively to myself. I should stop that.
Speaker:We're never going to get rid of these voices completely, but you can do things
Speaker:to set yourself up for success. So for one,
Speaker:the saboteur has like an open invitation into our heads when
Speaker:we don't have enough sleep. And for folks with ADHD, we tend to need
Speaker:more sleep than the average person. We tend to need about an hour more
Speaker:than the average person because our brains are working so hard every day. So when
Speaker:you don't get that and you start feeling really down on yourself, that is why
Speaker:if you're not eating enough, if you get hangry, that's another time that saboteur
Speaker:likes to come in. If you're like me, I get hangry all the time. So
Speaker:make sure that you're fueling your body enough. Also drinking enough water anytime
Speaker:you're sick or burnt out or injured and just not
Speaker:feeling your best. That is when this voice is going to just start taking
Speaker:over. So self care is one of the most important
Speaker:things in developing a business. Cause if you're not taking care of
Speaker:yourself, a, you're gonna get sick and the business isn't gonna
Speaker:be sustainable for completely other reasons.
Speaker:If you're constantly in that state of burnout and too tired and not
Speaker:eating enough and you're getting sick, well,
Speaker:you're constantly running your business from a place of fear and
Speaker:that's not a strategic place to start and run a business from.
Speaker:Another preventative thing that you can do to really keep these voices at
Speaker:bay is to not compare yourself to anyone else.
Speaker:Don't constantly be going out and looking at what other people
Speaker:are doing in your space. Those voices of doubt are
Speaker:just going to hop in and be like wow. Their pictures are better than yours.
Speaker:You're not good enough. Their website's better, their offer's better.
Speaker:This is better. This is better. Like, you suck, you're not good enough.
Speaker:What are you doing? You should just quit now. You're not good enough.
Speaker:One thing is that every single client of mine doesn't matter what they're
Speaker:doing. At some point they come to me and they say, Katie,
Speaker:like, my whole industry is saturated. There's so many people doing what
Speaker:I'm doing. I'm like, I can't compete. And
Speaker:I have to tell them, like, actually your industry is not saturated
Speaker:because most of the time it's not. It's just that you talk about what you
Speaker:do a lot online and the Google machine is paying attention.
Speaker:People are buying ads to show to people who have interest in these
Speaker:things. So if you're, for instance, like Neal, if you're a podcast
Speaker:producer and you're talking about podcasts all the time, guess what?
Speaker:You're going to be shown a fuck ton of podcast ads.
Speaker:Here's how you do this and here's how you do that. And I can help
Speaker:you get start a podcast. You know, thankfully for Neal, he's one of the best
Speaker:people in the game. So he's not going to be made insecure by all these
Speaker:charlatans out here who are selling awful services and awful
Speaker:programs. But if you're just starting out and you don't know
Speaker:that the other people aren't as good as you, or maybe they're, they're really,
Speaker:really good, you're going to really start believing that this market is saturated
Speaker:because it's all you're seeing online. Trust me, your clients
Speaker:aren't only seeing them. So don't compare yourself to anyone else.
Speaker:Stay in your lane. Help your people and
Speaker:invest in help. If you need help figuring out all the pieces, like I
Speaker:keep saying, you're never going to eradicate these voices. They're going to
Speaker:happen. Even if you don't compare yourself, even if you take really good care of
Speaker:yourself, even if you become a pro at catching that voice as soon
Speaker:as it happens, right? Your mind just, its job is to
Speaker:think thoughts and it's really good at it. And sometimes those thoughts are
Speaker:really shitty. The key to your success is how quickly do you recover from those
Speaker:thoughts? How quickly do you recorrect? It
Speaker:takes time. And I have to tell you, I'm not perfect at it.
Speaker:There are days where I totally get taken down by myself, saboteurs.
Speaker:But the more work I do on myself, the more I delve into my
Speaker:shadow work and really understand the things that I have shame around and unpack
Speaker:those things and stop letting them have power over me,
Speaker:the faster I recover when they start taking over. And here's
Speaker:where it is actually really beneficial to have a coach.
Speaker:If you're ready to stop being a weenie and actually run a business that makes
Speaker:money, then go ahead and book a generate income
Speaker:strategy call with me by going to
Speaker:weeniecast.com/strategycall.
Speaker:On this call, we will talk about your goals, your dreams,
Speaker:and your frustrations in getting there. And if it's a fit
Speaker:for both of us, then we can talk about different ways to work together.
